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વેદના, પીડા, દર્દ, શૂળ, સંઘર્ષ, દરેક નો અંત હોય છે સર્જન અથવા વિસર્જન. આત્મિક સંબંધો જરૂરી નથી કે લોહી ના સંબંધો હોય અને લોહી ના સંબંધો ઘણી વાર લોહી લુહાણ હોય છે.  બે વત્તા બે જરૂરી નથી કે ચાર થાય; સંબંધો માં બે વત્તા બે પાંચ પણ થઇ શકે અને પાંચસો પણ થઇ શકે છે.  આપણે માનીએ કે શું કરવાનું આખરે જીવન માં? પણ કરવા જેવું ઘણું છે. માન્યું કે સવારે વેહલા ઉઠવું, દાતણ કરવું , દાઢી કરવી, ટોઇલેટ જવું, સ્નાન કરવું, તેય્યાર થવું , આપણા નાના બાળક ને તેય્યાર કરવો એને school  મોકલવો, પછી આપણે પણ તેય્યાર થઇ office જવું ફક્ત એનું નામ જ જીવન નથી. પરંતુ આ પ્રવૃત્તિઓ આપણા જીવન માં એક લય પેદા કરે છે,જે જરૂરી છે.પ્રત્યેક પળે જીવન આપણી સામે નવા દરવાજા ઉઘાડે છે. માણ્યું એનું જતન કરવું  એ પણ એક લાહવો છે. પ્રાર્થના કરવી, કરી શકવી એ પણ બહુ મોટી વાત છે. ઘણી વાર આપણને ખબર હોય છે કે અમુક રસ્તો જ્યાં જાય છે તે આપણી મંઝીલ નથી છતાં પણ પગ ઉપડી જાય છે એ તરફ અને અમુક વાર આપણે ચોક્કસ પણે જાણતા  હોઈએ છીએ કે જ્યાં જવાનું છે એ રસ્તા પર આવી ને ઉભા છીએ તોપણ પગ ઉપાડતા નથી. ભાવી ભુલાવે ભાન ત્યાં બુદ્ધિ બિચારી શું કરે? ઈશ્વર ખરેખર એટલો શક્તિશાળી છે; કે એની મરજી વગર તો આપણે આસ્તિક પણ નથી બની શકતા.         .     

What makes me special?

I've always wondered what it is it inside me that can really carry me throughout the life? What is it that really people like about me? What is it that i want to achieve in life? What is it that really makes me special?
I believe, i have the ability to reach the people through spoken words, and that really makes me special. I can attract good intellectual people through my words of wisdom and shear knowledge and experience that i carry with me about life matters and relationships. There is always a choice for us to choose. We choose what we've been choosing always, and in that process we never realize that most of the times we are selecting things for the first times, but the process we follow to make a decision is common. And that amuses us and tells us what is really right or wrong for us. For example: when in some point in past life if i was so desperate to achieve a milestone, for which i ve been working hard, and it was never fulfilled in a concious life. Years passed and one day that dream comes true, when u would not have even expected that this could happen. So What to do? Emotions are very complex in nature. Some things in life you cannot figure it out and analyze easily like other things you used to analyze. The thing is you just don't know what to do? and again u have to decide, define, measure, analyze and choose. If you don't decide you 'll stay there unnecessarily for a long time wasting your valuable time and energy. The thing is this shall too pass. Be yourself. Do that you always do, don't change and try to jump and take the wrong path. Because u know it for sure that what path is correct for you.
Use your head and not heart while in confused with emotions..

The meaning and purpose of Love

During my early career days , when i joined Dupont i always hated love and i could not find why people fall in love? and why people who claim that they are in love are always in Pain?. But now at the age of 33 i find why love is so mysterious and why people fall in love. I believe there always a basic insticnt inside any person to be better and to develop oneself as a better human being, to give , to care, to nurture, to love, to strengthen, to nourish, to cherish, these are the activities that make you a better person and a better human being. That's why people fall in love so that they can raise their self on an emotional level. There is something always something which makes two peole fall in love. Common interest, feeling that he is the one or she is the one who can make my dreams come true. Creation and demolition and recreation is the inevitable rule of the nature, and that keeps happening at macro as wll as micro level irrespective of we notice or not. The hunt to find oneself really starts with this four letter word: LOVE , into bracket all forms, bracket complete. period.

Mysterious Questions of Love

Why is it that when your child comes to you, says hello with a small expectation that dad will play with me, and you are not even looking at him. What the hell are you thinking? Why you are not able to give the love to your beloved ones? What is going on your mind? If you are not able to listen to the voices of your dear ones, Who'll listen to your voice? The most important thing in your life is your family. You do not have a choice, you have a family. And Family is not a choice. Family is your life line.

Principles of Learning

What are the principles based on which the learning process is governed?
I found the answers on wikipedia. There are three basic principles given by Edward Thorndike an American Psychologist.
1) Readiness: You should be physically, mentally and emotionally ready and eagerto learn.
2) Exercise: Things most often repeated are best remembered.
3) Effect: This refers to an emotional reaction of a student.Learning is strenghthened when accompanied by a feeling of satisfaction basically feel good factor. You should feel pleasent about what you are trying to learn.
The additional three principles added since Thorndike are as follows
4) Primacy: a little difficult one to understand. Primacy, state of being first. What ever you learn first time should be correct and complete in all manners. Becasue that forms your perception. It is very difficult to unlearn wrong things and learn new things.
5) Recency: Things most recently learned are best remembered. Frequent reviews and summarization help fix in the mind the concept which is being tauht or learned.
6) Intensity: A sharp, vivid, dramatic and exciting learning experience teaches more than a traditional routine or boring experience.

What really drives you?

What it is , that really moves you everyday? While you are in the bed and in a comfortable, enjoyable sleep early in the morning, what makes you really wake up and leave all the comforts of bed and early morning sleep. Is it your habit? Do you wake up early? Is there any strong reason behind leaving the bed early? Is there any commitment that you've made with yourself, or with some one dear to you, your beloved one, or is there a duty call? You have to rush for a job, otherwise you'll be fired. Is there any strong internal motivation that drives you everyday, or you are just being pulled away by the fact that you don't get food if you do not get up from bed. Have you ever tried to solve the mysterious equations of love? Do you really find love mysterious? Are you seeking God's companionship in your life? Do you really think that not getting up early is your weakness? How can you turn your weakness into your strength? All these questions are and need not be answered until you know what really moves you everyday. Because that's where lies the answers of all the above questions. I have always found difficulty in leaving a book mark while reading a book, I always forget to make a mark when interrupted, and that was bothering me for a long while. But now I have discovered the strength part of it. When i am not leaving a book mark, every time after a break when restart reading, I always have revision of the topics i already read. And when I found that I left here last time. By the time the already read part gets more clearer in the mind. And now it never bothers me. Because if i believe that i m going to read this book fully, (I decide this by reading first 50-100 pages) I never feel that I should not read the parts which I already read, but on the other hand I should enjoy all the parts. Not to worry about leaving a bookmark.

Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi

What can I say about him? I am here to study how he developed himself and rose to the level of greater altitude from a common, platform which was shared by all the leading people who lived in his time and lead this country towards the path of independance, home rule. When he was insulted by a ticket checker in the train to Pretoria in South Africa I think that was the turning point in his life. The seed was ploughed in his mind that was going to be the huge banyan tree in the form of Movement of Freedom. I firmly believe that the instances in life which challange your basic human rights, will lead you further in life and always have a deciding role in your life. When your Self Respect is hurt badly, your ego fights back thinking that this is a war for survival, but actually it is not merely a war for survival but the process through which Mohandas becomes Mahatma, Narendranath becomes Swami Vivekananda. I think that there is a little bit of Narendranath and Mohandas lives in all of us. But something stops us from becoming Swami or Mahatma, we need to find that, and work on that.

Hello World,

This is my first ever post in the world of WEBLOGs and I am really very excited, never thought of doing something like this. I started writing personal journal when I was 12. I wrote continuously for about 10 years on special occassions some times without any occassion. And I found it to be a very good tool to help myself define the path of the future, whatever I wrote was straightaway going into my subconcious and perhaps what I am today is the fruit of those early days of diarywriting. Since my childhood I have always been a language lover. Have read a few books and was quite confident about my future doings in life. But after I passed out from college, I was so into survival that I forgot what's life is all about. Now that I have reached a level where I can really think , recreate things and give this world back with the added value . I have always followed my instincts (consiously or unconsiously) through out my 31 nos. of rotations completed around the star SUN. The payback time has come. I am a Debtor. And seriously I am in a mood to increase the number of people who'll cry when I die.